How to know what you truly feel? Being self-aware is a key tool towards leading happy and fulfilled life. We at CHSR look forward to build a self-aware society that is happy and thriving. We share this self-awareness technique in hope of building a better world and reaching to each one of you who are trying to live a happy and fulfilled life. We hope this technique will allow you to find out how you truly feel at any given time about a particular topic, person, or object.
Every emotion has a physical reaction that it triggers, these are called psychosomatic responses. The tightening of the chest when you are sad, the butterflies in your stomach when you are in love, the feeling of lightness when you are happy, those are psychosomatic responses. People usually only become aware of these physical sensations when they experience a strong emotion and these sensations tend to be stronger as well. However, every emotion has an attached physical reaction, even if you are not aware of it.
Psychosomatic responses, therefore, provide us with a great way of determining how our emotional-self really feels about something. The technique will be described in a step by step manner, but over time, as you use it, you will not need to follow each step every time. The key is to discover what psychosomatic response you are feeling at that moment. Whether an individual will need to enact each action every time depends entirely on the sensitivity of that individual.
The method is as follows:
Step 1: Take a deep breath.
Step 2: Feel each breath moving down your throat into your chest, filling your lungs.
Step 3: Similarly follow each exhale.
Step 4: Ask yourself a question about how you are feeling. It must be a yes or no question. For example, “Do you like this person,” “Are you angry,” “Are you sad,” “Are you sad because XYZ thing happened,” etc.
Step 5: If you feel lightness in your chest, then the answer is yes. If you feel your chest tightening, then the answer is no.
Using these 5 simple steps, you can figure out how you truly feel at any moment, about any topic, person, or object. Keep in mind, awareness of a feeling doesn’t mean you have to act out that feeling. Feeling something simply means that for your unconscious Emotional-self, a particular incident, person or thing was able to bring an emotional response in you. Emotion is simply your unconscious conveying to you what made sense evolutionarily through chemical release in your brain. Whether that message your unconscious conveyed is to your advantage needs to be thought through rationally before you act out. Acting out on your emotions every time will simply lead your life to wrong directions, and that makes your life chaotic and stressful.
Being aware of what you feel is the first step in dealing with those feelings logically, effectively, and not letting them overwhelm your process of making effective decisions. Remember consistency is the key to any form of practice or habit. We hope you consistently practice the technique to improve self-awareness and lead a happy fulfilled life.
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