Have you experienced your body fully? Comfortably? Without looking at it and think if I lost some weight or gained some, if I was longer or shorter? I doubt people of the same weight look the same. We have our own signature appearance even if we dress like any other person we come across. Isn’t it honorable enough to accept it?
So why do we need to find our place in the universe? To make sense of our struggle in life so we keep some sanity during uncertainty. It is as simple as that.
What if I say sum of discomfort doesn’t add up to the glory of change? Sometimes we go through a series of unfortunate experience. Does it mean we are not heading the right direction? Of course the question then arise what is right and what is wrong? How do we know the universe has a plan or there just a series of events in which some survive and some lost in the process?
We are all life long students. In order to develop we need to learn how. Staying open makes the process more fruitful and worthwhile.
There are no shortcuts to successful parenting but there is a long one and it is rewarding. You too grow with them as an individual. As you parent them you parent yourself too. Teach to treat themselves with love happens only when you genuinely show how lovingly you treat yourself and others.
A child only turns defensive when it feels threatened or feel something is not according to its interest. The way you parent your inner child determines how well your mind functions and ultimately how you function. Your conscious mind is like the inner parent or adult.
As a newborn you might not have a sense of difference from the outside world. Everything is part of you. You may not have known the difference between you and your mother. Only after few months that distinction starts to appear. That is the first sense of being a separate person from others. You and mother. Then the list increases. You try seeing connection between people of same gender. If you have noticed some children go and call someone else as father just because he is a male. The realization that they are outsider and separate from your parents appear only later. That is when you start seeing children cry when they see strangers, have separation anxiety.
We survive as a collective. Most of the behaviors revolve around being part of the collective. To be accepted means to survive. In prehistoric time this was crucial to survival. Let us see why. Food is a collective resource so is protection. Being isolated means not able to receive food and protection. Considering the hunt and gather nature of how food was allocated it meant you may either have to macho up go hunt and try not being killed in order to eat. This macho way is not possible for everyone because hunting used to be a group activity not solitary. Now when a predator comes it is a collective effort to ward it off. You are not part of the group then you may have to face the predator alone. Well if you are confident you may but you have to consider if it is worth it.
Mind and body are linked. One effects the other. Taking care of our basic needs like nutrition, sleep and hydration is essential to prevent disorders like depression and anxiety.
